tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798427981722474289.post4557841868605648157..comments2023-10-28T05:52:54.293-07:00Comments on NANSPLAINING: Maybe the Sun Will Shine Todaynanarchisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14223431351094544495noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798427981722474289.post-24281988523627676372009-09-13T17:43:05.626-07:002009-09-13T17:43:05.626-07:00"So imagine my dismay when another couple I c..."So imagine my dismay when another couple I consider to "just work" hit the skids."<br /><br />It is, admittedly, a shocking situation to observe this happening to friends. However, I've BEEN half of that defunct couple, and there is often a lot going on below the surface that is never observed by outsiders.<br /><br />I was in a six year relationship that started going off. We would spend entire evenings at opposite ends of the house, barely communicating; I had no libido; he developed an addiction to porn which would infiltrate what remained of our sex life; we would have small-scale arguments all the time. Even so, the relationship was never "bad" enough to warrant it ending.<br /><br />I ended up sleeping with another man and getting found out. In a way that was a relief. I now had a reason to leave. He, as the cuckolded partner, then monopolised all of our mutual friends, so that not a single person ever heard my side of the story - after all, one does not wilfully destroy a healthy relationship, but everyone believed us to be just that.<br /><br />I guess my long, rambling point is that a relationship is only as healthy as the participants make it, and that there's often much more going on than can be observed by others. The second point is that I should start my own damn blog to ramble!Caramellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07856730310205045704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798427981722474289.post-53586713234172363382009-09-09T20:52:40.300-07:002009-09-09T20:52:40.300-07:00I've been dating on for 10 years now. I've...I've been dating on for 10 years now. I've lived with 3 EX boyfriends. I realize I like my privacy, but I enjoy having someone to cuddle with at night (PMS and all). I'm contemplating doing it again even though the last 3 times were sunken battleships.<br /><br />To each their own...<br /><br />Though I do feel a little better this time as the apartment will be mine =)<br /><br />So good luck!NoOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10447899042237106232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798427981722474289.post-34182796528536349772009-09-09T06:46:31.134-07:002009-09-09T06:46:31.134-07:00I think it is a good idea. Like you, I didn't ...I think it is a good idea. Like you, I didn't think I'd live with anyone before I got married and well, I did. And you know what, it really took our relationship to another level. It forced me to be a more patient person. In relationships past, I'd normally throw my arms in the air and run away. Since we were living together, though, I couldn't very well do that. I actually learned how to work things out and not give up so quickly. <br /><br />My only advice, make sure you each have a space of your very own, even if it is the bathroom or the closet. We still live by that one today.Mrs. Biancahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14514266097111471161noreply@blogger.com